Lifestyle
Happiness the key to coping with modern life
Lifestyle – Judy Murphy meets the women behind an initiative that aims to give parents the skills to rear well-balanced children
Listening, really listening is the most valuable gift a parent can ever bestow on a child – and it costs nothing, according to psychologists Arlene Naughten and Lorraine Lynch.
These two young women are on a mission to help Irish families become happier by teaching them how to cope with the pitfalls of modern society – issues such as lack of time, unemployment, financial worries and the increasing dominance of the internet.
Arlene, from Ballinasloe and Lorraine from Co Clare now living in Portumna, work as family psychologists and therapists, and despite their relative youth, they have a vast array of qualifications and experience between them.
This experience has taught them that, since the decline of the extended family, parents need advice and help with rearing their children.
“There is a lot of chronic anxiety, stress and depression out there,” says Lorraine, “and we wanted a guide so we could say to parents ‘there is something that can help, something you can read at your own pace’.”
The result is a book and upcoming website #100 Happy Days 4 Kids, based on last year’s #100HappyDays challenge on social media which encouraged people to become aware of things that made them happy, over a 100-day period.
Arlene and Lorraine say that giving parents the skills to rear children in a happy, safe environment can help prevent problems later in life.
“It’s like family therapy in disguise,” says Arlene, who is mother to four-year-old Cailín.
By giving parents 100 diverse activities to undertake with children – from baking to laughing, to having random celebrations, to telling them how much you love them – the women promise that this book can have a real impact on children’s present and future happiness.
The book is written in an attractive, easy-to-read style, but it has an extensive bibliography at the back quoting a variety of academic sources which back up their claim that following these steps will lead to a happier family life,
The two women met when Lorraine joined the ISPCC in Galway as a volunteer and Arlene, who worked with the children’s support organisation, became her supervisor. Both share a passion for children’s rights, both are grafters and high achievers, and they decided to join forces on this project.
Both work for Sugru Therapy Service in Athlone, an organisation set up by Arlene, which offers a range of therapies for children and families in addition to parenting workshops.
A graduate of NUIG Arlene has several post-graduate Diplomas and Masters in the areas of psychology and therapeutic play, and is currently on the Doctoral programme at at Middlesex University in London. She lectures part-time with the Athlone Institute of Technology
Lorraine who is Head of Research with Sugru is currently studying for her PhD in the University of Limerick, where she is focusing on issues around Dyspraxia. Like Lorraine, she is a graduate of NUIG, and has also continued her studies, here in Ireland and abroad.
The women specialise in working with children and families across a range of issues – children who have problems can’t be treated in isolation, they say. They are lively, smart and fun, and it’s easy see how children would like and trust them.
“A lot of children are in a stressed environment at the moment,” says Arlene, adding that many kids today don’t have ‘down-time’.
If both parents are working, there is usually an early start in the morning, and children are often given iPads or tablets to entertain them. Then it’s straight to school and activities there. And so many children have extra-curricular activities that life is just one long whirlwind. Parents are so eager to do the best for their children that they can’t always see the wood for the trees.
But being a good parent isn’t all about sending children to drama and music lessons, to gymnastics or soccer. The book emphasises this.
For more, read this week’s Galway City Tribune.
Health, Beauty and Lifestyle with Denise McNamara
A native of Ballinasloe has expanded his baby clothing business and created a range of unique tableware and cutlery – all made from bamboo. Entrepreneur Enda Barton, who set up BambooBaby during the lockdown when he lost his job, has recently taken the huge leap of leaving his job in a computer company to work full-time in the business.
While there are some companies that sell baby tableware made from bamboo, this is the first Irish company to produce tableware themselves.
“I started BambooBaby with clothing, and the idea of having a tableware range made from 100% bamboo came to me when I was thinking about what our customers would want,” explains Enda.
“This makes it particular attractive for those who are gifting because now they can order a bundle of clothes, and add a beautiful sustainable feeding set to go in with the clothes which makes a really unique gift.”
Each item has smooth edges that are gentle on little gums and easy for babies to hold, facilitating their seamless transition from liquids to solids. The plates are divided into sections to encouraging them to eat varied foods and develop healthy eating habits from an early age.
An FDA approved silicone suction base is attached to secure the tableware in place, minimising spills and messes. Though silicone is a synthetic material, it outshines its plastic counterparts in terms of durability, temperature tolerance, and environmental impact. Unlike plastic, silicone does not degrade into harmful microplastics, which means it’s better for the environment.
For more, read this week’s Connacht Tribune.
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Positivity, empowerment, encouragement and hope will be the focus in schools this Thursday, when children will get to celebrate National Confidence Day in classrooms right across the country.
A host of Irish celebrities have come together to participate in an inspirational and motivational half hour show, produced by STARCAMP with Gala Retail for the children of Ireland, with contributions from An Taoiseach, Leo Varadkar, Alisha Weir (Matilda in the movie by the same name), Rory’s Stories and Cillian O’ Connor, an Irish favourite in this year’s Britain’s Got Talent. “If children watch only one thing this year, let it be this”, stated Principal Sean Cummins.
Earlier this week, ahead of National Confidence Day on Thursday, STARCAMP with Gala Retail carried out a national survey about confidence and children’s well-being in children. Just under 2,000 parents from all 26 counties across Ireland with primary school aged children took part. The research uncovered that:
- 66% of parents said that they would like their children to be more confident.
- 97% believe that it is very important that life skills such as handshakes, resilience and the importance of losing be taught to children.
- When asked if parents would like the school environment to be changed in any way, (they were allowed to choose up to 2 options), only 6% believe that the it is fine as is. 64% believing more life skills should be taught in school. 52% would like to see more creativity, 32% would like to see more emphasis on their holistic development, 10% would like to see more sport.
- 75% of those whose children use devices believe that it has a negative effect on their confidence.
- 42% of parents admit that they problem solve for their children too much.
- Out of 7 traits that were listed that parents would wish for their child going forward, including academic excellence, sociability, creativity, confidence, resilience, sporting ability and street smartness, 40% chose resilience, 35% chose confidence, 13% chose being sociable, 5% chose street smart, 3% rated creativity as the most important trait, 2% chose academic excellence and 1% chose being sporty.
- Further analysis from the survey showed a concern that the majority of parents share for their children. When asked about their children’s anxieties and worries, a concerning 13% of parents said that their primary school child suffered from anxiety. A further 38% said that their child worries too much, with less than half, 46%, stating that their child had normal worries in life and a further 2% that don’t seem to worry about anything.
- 43% would like if their child’s social skills were better.
- 85% believe that group activities (such as performance and sport) are extremely important in their child’s development, a further 14% find it important. Less than 1% state that it is of no importance.
Commenting on the findings, Aideen O’Grady, Founder of Starcamp says:
“Research clearly shows that parents across all 32 counties of Ireland desire a more holistic lifestyle for their children. An overwhelming 97% would like to see more emphasis on life skills, with a strong desire for more balance in the classroom and not for the main emphasis to be on academia. As always, excessive technology is playing a negative role in our children’s lives and sadly, the majority of parents feel that their child is not confident enough. The fact that the majority are genuinely concerned with their children’s anxiety and stress levels is quite disturbing, particularly with a group of children so young and innocent. I always appreciate these findings, whatever the outcome, because it gives us the opportunity to make changes.”
STARCAMP recently decided to take baby steps towards encouraging positivity, confidence and growth in children outside of their camp environment. This Thursday, for National Confidence Day, they have produced a special half hour show which will be available to watch in all classrooms and homes across Ireland. Over 300,000 are expected to tune in on Thursday. Over 270 STARCAMP with Gala Retail camps will take place this summer across Ireland, with almost 30,000 children attending. The theme is resilience and there is a new section on life skills. “From small acorns grow mighty oaks. If we can start with a positive little seedling like this show in the classroom or home, and build on it little by little, focus on the positive and laugh, dance and rejoice more – just imagine how our children could feel about themselves. And then, just imagine what they could achieve!”
The “I BELIEVE IN ME” Confidence Show for Children will be available for all to watch and can be streamed on Thursday, May 25th, from the Starcamp website www.starcamp.ie for a limited time.
Country Living with Francis Farragher
Sometimes, I’m taken aback a bit, by some of the younger acquaintances that I enjoy a few scoops with. They’re kind of surprised that I’m not a fan of Donald Trump; that I’ve no problem with gay rights; and that I have sympathy for the plight of the Ukrainians who have come to Ireland to avoid being slaughtered by the Russians.
There is, I feel, some lingering gene from famine times which clicks in with me – and a lot of other Irish people too – where a little alarm bell of the mind rings and transports me back to a time of only a few generations back when the Great Hunger ravished our land, killing around one million people with at least as many more, taking the emigrant boats, mainly to America, to try and survive.
At times, it’s worthwhile to have a little historical reflection, on the greatest catastrophe to have ever hit our island when we were a colony of the United Kingdom following the 1801 Act of Union. We were a largely tenant population – the poorest of the poor – relying almost exclusively on the potato crop to feed the general masses.
Although the penal laws had largely been repealed during the Daniel O’Connell era, there were only two classes of people in Ireland during those days of the 1800s: the English and Anglo-Irish families and landlords who owned practically all of the land and then at the other end of the ladder, the far greater majority of the population, the native Irish, who had to pay rent and eke out a living from two or three acres of often poor quality land.
As bad as things were up until 1845, at least the potato crop managed to keep the people fed. Potatoes ironically had been introduced by the landed gentry about a century before that as a garden crop, with one main variety grown, known as the Irish Lumper. Disaster though was to strike through 1845 in the form of potato disease with the name of Phytophrthora infestans, which in simple wordage translated into a word that’s now part of the Irish psyche – the blight.
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